ColdShower #89🥶🚿 “I don't want to be the person I was last week"
Batman, of all people, still lives in his parent's basement.
Shower thought via Reddit.
The ColdShower: Weekly ideas for better health, habits, and happiness.
Welcome back,
Recharge: Knowing “WHO” you are.
Refine: Habit Anchor Guidelines and Planning for Failure
Rethink: Could you throw away your to-do list?
Recharge: Shower Thoughts 🥶🚿
Shower Thoughts: (noun) Little bits of wisdom learned through life experience and cold water.
“I don’t want to be the person I was last week.”
I heard this quote over the weekend and it stuck with me. It was delivered in the context of the pursuit of self-development mastery.
That’s the same journey I’m on. The one where I look inside myself. Where I work on me first. Because I believe success starts from within.
And if I’m constantly getting better — Then why would I want to be my past self?
The space between acceptance and growth
I wrestle with this concept. How to balance accepting me for me...while wanting to grow through change.
How can I accept myself, give myself the ever so popular “self-love”, while seeking continual improvement?
The space between acceptance and growth is awareness.
Awareness of where you are, and where you want to go.
Awareness of WHO you are, and who you want to become.
Knowing WHO you really are
“But people don’t change...” — I think this is 90% false. When you have a growth mindset, you can change every year, month, week, and even day.
It’s that 10% I want to know more about in myself. WHO am I at my core?
At my core, I’m committed to self-mastery. I’m goal oriented and achievement driven. There’s nothing I can do to fight this.
And each time I push myself to grow, I find out a little bit more about that 10%.
Self-mastery can be a daunting task. It can feel like a prison, a never ending hamster wheel of pursuing achievement.
OR it can be freeing. A fresh slate given to you each week. A blank canvas to make your own.
A true acceptance of who you are, and who you want to become.
The question is…. Do you know who you really are?
Refine: ⚓Habit Anchors
How to build good habits, keep core routines, and form an identity
My #1 Guideline for building a strong anchor.
ONE. AT. A. TIME.
Too much, too fast = a recipe for failure. Every time I’ve set out to build too many habits at once, I undoubtably can’t keep it all going and quit.
Anchors are built through consistency over long periods of time.
I loosely follow these guidelines in my life:
I only tweak existing routines/anchors one week at a time.
I only work on establishing any new habits one month at a time.
Anything more than this and my focus is spread too thin.
Backstops — Planning for failure.
On your quest for consistency, you can get caught up in an “all or nothing” mindset.
Consistency is NOT perfection.
It’s a body of work over time.
You should plan to fail. Not let failure break you.
How do you plan to fail?
Set Backstops — markers that can help you course correct and get back on track.
What’s this look like in practice?
Come up with ways to look at your progress over a longer period of time and make adjustments to your habits where necessary if you’re not on track.
Remove some of your rigidness. Can’t meditate for a full 15 minutes… 2 minutes can still do. Miss your morning workout…course correct at another point in the day with something small, even a few pushups to keep building consistency.
What other factors are important for you when building habit anchors? Let me know in the comments.
Rethink — Jonny’s Journal
Q: What would you do if you threw out your to-do list?
I asked this question to myself a few months ago. I challenged myself what life would be like. Now I’m living it.
Something I thought was irreplaceable is now gone from my life for the better.
Your turn: What’s something you once thought was irreplaceable that you changed your mind on?
THANK YOU for making it to the end!
People change every day, the saying is you can't change someone else but they can change themselves!! it takes a lot of discipline for changes which is difficult for most. Encouragement and persistence but mostly rewarding results helps people change
Being a person of action and making a decision to not quit, seizing the moment( you can nothing of the about the past)Take the opportunity to create the change and a new you . At least the 90% :) I love the 100% of you :)